On a trolley car, my husband noticed some men dressed in San Francisco Giants attire. He watched and eventually asked them what they would sell their World Series Game Two tickets for. “Tickets?” the man answered, “We don’t have any tickets, we just go to the back entrance of the field, wait in line, and hope for a wristband to watch three free innings.” Wow, we thought and asked if we could follow along. After waiting in line for a couple hours, meeting many interesting people, sharing wonderful conversations, we were given a wristband and thoroughly enjoyed three innings of the World Series game.
I kept thinking, what if my husband never asked the question. It didn’t hurt to put the question out there, and look what we gained. My dear grandmother used to always say “Take what comes by your hand.” I consider this philosophy often. Whether there is an opportunity to ask a question, make a comment or have an experience, I try to take advantage of it.
I remember when my grandmother was diagnosed with leukemia at the age of 92, the doctors told us she probably had a couple of months to live. My grandma was so dear to me, and as difficult as it was to talk with her about her not living on earth anymore, I wanted to be sure she knew how crazy about her I was. I told her how much I loved her and have always enjoyed visiting and spending time with her and that I would miss her so much. One week later she died. If I hadn’t taken the opportunity at that moment, as initially uncomfortable as it was, to tell her what I was thinking, I would have missed the chance.
Opportunities present themselves to us on a regular basis, sometimes we are aware of them as we are paying close attention to our surroundings and sometimes we get caught up in so many other things that we miss them.
When we are afraid of the consequence, how we may look, the discomfort of an experience, or the risk that may be involved in taking a chance, we can miss out on amazing, inspiring, fulfilling experiences.
Communication is the key to successful relationships. It is a necessary component for trust and growth. When you are having a feeling, talk about it respectfully and honestly.
When an opportunity to share a compliment is available, let someone know what they mean to you. You may assume the person already knows, but it’s best not to assume, and when you have nothing to lose and you can add to another persons experience in life, why not?
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Think how opportunities fit into your value system and what you really have to lose, when you are considering taking a chance. When it fits, take it! That is what life is all about. Enjoy!