At my brother's wedding 12 years ago, I was so excited for his beautiful day and happily displayed my overflowing energy for opportunities. As my sister-in-law was preparing to throw her bouquet, I was front and center and put on my best "Mary Catherine Gallagher" shoes (from Saturday Night Live). Jumping around, hollering "Pick me! Pick me!" I was determined and focused to catch that bouquet! Due to the selective aim of my sister-in-law, fate, my good luck, or because I gently pushed others aside, I caught that bouquet!
Have you ever heard that a person becomes the thoughts they focus on and give their emotional attention to? Whatever thoughts and attitudes we hold in our minds, become our reality. "I can never get it done," translates into never getting it done. "I'm dreading this job," creates anxiety. "They don't respect me" generates focusing on ways that they don't respect you. "I can do it," becomes the path for getting things done. Heavy, negative thoughts yield sluggish, pessimistic feelings and experiences, whereas positive thinking produces great energy and clear opportunities.
Amidst our busy lives, trying to balance work, family, social commitments and other obligations and responsibilities, it is easy to see how people can get stuck in traps of negative thinking. There are a great many things we need to do. Added to that are lists of things we "think" we need to do. How do we manage it all? As the lists grow, each task seems to be shouting "pick me, pick me" vying for our attention, creating that overwhelming feeling that there is no possible way we can ever get everything done. Chasing around from one thing to the next can cause our already busy brains to become overloaded and be pushed into overdrive ~ creating stress, exhaustion and self-doubt (Escape the Prison of Negative Programming, Bestler). The more we worry about it all, the worse the feelings get.
Eliminating some of the extra can help. Determine what things actually need to be done. What can wait and what can't. The fewer goals we have to aim for at one time, the better we can manage and focus. Consider how your tasks align with the things you value most? Pay attention to your priorities, your dreams and desires and do what you can do to assure that those things become a reality. "Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter the least." -Goethe.
I guess I did all I could do to make catching that bouquet a reality. When we think positively, we can achieve more and we significantly build our confidence. Observe your thoughts over the next few weeks and months ~ you may be amazed at the number of times you will catch yourself in the negative thinking mode. Even the most positive people in the world find themselves with occasional negative thoughts, but try to intentionally create positive thoughts~ and enjoy the reward!