The most essential feature of any relationship is communication: the activity of conveying information. As humans, we need to express ourselves and understand the expression of others ~ that is how we know who we are and how we relate to the world. It is key to the success of any relationship and to living a satisfying life.
Communication is a process that begins when someone sends a message, through a chosen medium and ends when the receiver gives feedback that the message was understood. At times the process requires more attention and mutual clarification. Through verbal, nonverbal and body language, writing, listening, understanding and interpreting, we convey our messages.
The mediums we have to choose from, to communicate, are vast. I appreciate the conveniences of modern technology ~ the speed and distance we are able to connect with another, sometimes within minutes, is amazing. Instant messaging, e-mail, Facebook, twitter, cell phones, texting, etc. ~ they all possess unique benefits. In some ways it seems to bring our world closer together. But, for me, nothing seems to compare to the joy of receiving a letter in the mail. There is just something special about a handwritten message.
Maybe it is the personal quality of a handwritten message that feels so good, or maybe just knowing that someone cared enough to take the time to write. The process of writing is said to utilize more of the right/creative side of our brain, so ideas that may have otherwise been lodged somewhere in our minds, appear to be freed while writing. Generally, the more we write, the more relaxed we become and our emotions are more freely expressed. So maybe the handwritten messages tend to feel warmer and more genuine.
I recently read a sweet book called, “The Note,” by Mike O’Mary, speaking to writing and gratitude. Thanking people and letting them know how or why you appreciate them. O’Mary encourages people to write notes to anyone special ~ “a brother, sister, father or mother, neighbor, friend, teacher or coworker.. and if there is any reason to suspect that they don’t know how you feel about them,” let them know. His powerful and uplifting message is that a simple note can change the life of another person. “Research has shown that a simple act of kindness directed toward another human being improves the functioning of the immune system and stimulates the production of serotonin in both the recipient of the kindness and the person extending the kindness,” (“The Power of Intention,” Dr. Wayne Dyer).
“The way we communicate with others and with ourselves, ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” - Anthony Robbins