“It only gets better, says a gentleman exiting the restaurant, after he had been sitting across from my children and I. “Each stage is amazing! Until your son grows up and moves to the furthest place on the planet—the South Pole,” he says. Wow! Now, if I weren’t thoroughly enjoying my experience with my children, after that comment, I would have been reminded that now was the time
Paying attention to messages from those who have been in our shoes can offer us a strong foundation in today’s world. Elder wisdom is like compassionate guidance, helping us appreciate and experience what is most important in life.
A poem I’ve enjoyed for years goes like this:
If I had my child to raise all over again,
I’d finger-paint more and point the finger less.
I’d do less correcting and more connecting.
I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.
I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I’d run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I’d do more hugging and less tugging.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I’d build self-esteem first and the house later.
I’d teach less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.
—“If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again,” Diane Loomans
I feel fortunate to receive lots of wisdom from elders or parents with grown children, that remind me to enjoy the young moments, while my children are home and close.
Pearls of wisdom are lessons already learned. They are experiences that have been had, so we don’t have to mess around with regretful ones. It’s a gift of a sensible perspective. Wikipedia.com defines wisdom as “a deep understanding and realization of people, things, events or situations, resulting in the ability to apply perceptions, judgments and actions in keeping with this understanding.” Wisdom can be wide-ranging ~ Never listen to or participate in gossip ~ a dog that carries a bone, will take one away (people who relay gossip to you will gossip about you too); a penny saved is a penny earned; don’t count your chickens before they hatch; talk less listen more; invite friends over to dinner even if the carpet is stained or the sofa faded.
Bits of wisdom are messages that help you live the best you can right now. Consider carefully the blessings that are offered to you ~ be it about parenting, relationships, integrity, or enjoying life. Seize every minute and every insightful gift!